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8 Easy Ways To Start A Conversation With A Stranger
2 min readApr 21, 2024
- Assume Kinship — Act like they are your best friends before you even go into the conversation. It’s rarely about what you say but rather about the comfort you make them feel.
- Create Joy — Focus your entire effort on having fun with that person. People remember feelings more than words. Start each conversation with a smile. Ideally, you should be having a ton of fun before you even approach them, for that attracts people more than anything else.
- Talk Less — Reviewing your conversations with friends, you will be surprised to find that the conversations people remember most fondly were those in which they talked for 80% or more of the time. Ask more open questions sooner in your conversations.
- Be Physically Comfortable — Do not be overbearing or push limits, but act like you would with a best friend. Nudge them with your elbow, pat them on the back, or do whatever else you feel comfortable doing. Just keep it very non-sexual.
- Speak From Your Heart — If you feel awkward or uncomfortable then say that. “Hey, I am very bad at starting a conversation but you seemed like a really interesting person so I would love to start a conversation.” Lines similar to that will often get you far more than trying to come up with a clever ice-breaker.
- Don’t Expect Anything —…
