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9 Smart Ways To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
2 min readMay 13, 2024
- Listen more during every conversation you have. 80/20 should be your ratio of listening/talking. Ask more open ended questions and actually try to listen. To learn to read between the lines of what other people are telling you, you have to pay close attention.
- Set an hour a week aside to reflect on your own week. In particular, about the emotions you felt and where they came from. Record this in some form or write it down so you can study it later.
- Set an intention before going into any situation. You do this so that you remain in control of your emotions in the face of others. Stay true to yourself and your own convictions.
- Never judge yourself, or others, for the emotions that come up. A high emotional intelligence means accepting the emotions that come up and then redirecting the energy to better things. Nowhere does that mean you should feel bad for feeling bad.
- Choose your emotions or choose to let them go. Just because an emotion comes up does not mean you must engage in it, accept it, or take actions because of it. It can simply exist within you without anything more. Make sure you take an active part, rather than a passive one, in deciding what to feel.
- Stay calm and always keep the bigger picture in mind. Too often do we get lost in the…
