Find Your Happiness

Lukas Schwekendiek
5 min readJul 4, 2022
Photo by Alen Rojnic on Unsplash

Many people believe happiness comes from something outside themselves.

That they need money, fame, success, love, friendships, a fit body, a big house, or something else to fill this perceived void that creates the elusive ‘Happiness’.

And, all of them do help for sure, but they are all means to an end.

You will still have to do something with any one of these to be happy, as none of them make you happy on their own.

If they did then anyone possessing even one of these things would be happy.

That being said, cat videos do come quite close, but even they do not grant permanent happiness.

There is no one factor that creates ever-lasting happiness in life.

Nothing, no matter how grand, will make you happy in the end… at least not forever.

While you can never reach ever-lasting happiness, you can reach a stage where so many small things come together throughout the day that you will feel happy and fulfilled for most of it.

This is what we see when we see someone truly happy: Someone that has such a balanced and finely tuned life that it seems like they are never unhappy.

To reach this state you have to balance your life effectively across all areas.

At the core this means Working & Resting, which is what many understand under a “Work-Life Balance”, however it is not quite that simple.

Learning a new language, getting better at your instrument, developing a habit of waking up early in the morning, and even feeding your pet are all included under the idea of Work.

“Work” means anything that requires Energy, be it physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, because it is work for your body or mind.

Anything then that is not a habit, or set ritual, that you do not do purely for the joy of it is “work”.

It is this kind of “work” that you must balance with regular periods of rest and recovery to feel a sense of fulfillment.

Now, many think that if they had a choice they would chose not to do any work at all, but that will not lead to any fulfillment.

Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post.