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Give Out Of Love — The Best Advice For Any Relationship
Don’t expect anything from your partner. Period. Contrary to popular belief, your relationship will not make you happier!
Before you regard this as negative and cynical advice, hear me out!
The biggest relationship problems arise from the simple fact that we expect the other person to give us happiness, to take care of us and to lead us to a better life, when, in fact, that is not their job.
Everyone is dependent on themselves to reach happiness. Putting your happiness in someone else’s shoes is a tall order for anyone to fulfill. You know how hard it sometimes is to be happy… and that is with only worrying about making yourself happy, much less caring for 2 people.
When we expect our partner to make us happy no matter the cost, we feel like they are “doing their job” as long as we are happy. But as soon as we find we are sad, angry or scared it is their fault and we blame them for it, not wanting to take responsibility ourselves.
This thought alone is enough to completely wreck most relationships and it happens quite often. People get into arguments over the smallest things because they are not happy but do not want to directly blame the other person for it, so they use the toilet seat being up as an excuse to start a fight.
