How Do You Know When You Found Yourself?

Lukas Schwekendiek
4 min readJul 10, 2022
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A comedian would say that all you have to do is look down and, oh look; there you are!

Found you!

Even a spiritual guru might say that you are already found, and were never lost, you just didn’t like what you saw.

But you are always there, always were there, and, for as long as you can grasp the concept of being there, will be there.

In that sense, you were never lost.

But that is not what we mean when we talk about “finding ourselves”.

We mean finding our true self, the person we want to be or the heroic version we think we are.

So where is that person?

I mean, if they are us, then they have to be somewhere inside of us already, right?

Or do we have to create them to be able to find them?

What if we just couldn’t see them because we were blocking with too much other things?

I think ‘finding yourself’ is more about letting go of everything else.

It is not so much in finding the needle in a hay stack than it is about removing the entire haystack.

That means, it is not so much about finding who you truly are, but about letting go of everything…

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post. Coaching available again! Email: Lukas.schwekendiek@gmail.com with the word "Coaching"