How To Deal With Constant Failure In Work, Life, And School
Seriously, stop trying to make everything an instant fairy tale!
Your life is not supposed to be without hardships, failures and difficulties! You are not supposed to get OVER these things!
So many people come to me complaining that their life sucks and that they just want an instant, all-fix solution, but it does not exist.
You will encounter failures no matter where you go or what you do… Get used to it and make the most out of them!
When you encounter failure you need to face it.
When you encounter a failure and run away from it by trying to handle it or by getting distance from the failure you are robbing yourself of the experience to learn from it.
You need to look into the belly of the beast and find out why you failed. With that knowledge in hand you take a precision nuke to it and blow it out of the water.
This will NOT get rid of the failure itself, but getting rid of the reason allows you to consider the problem handled and it allows you to move on.
The difference between this form of moving on and one in which you try to deal with the problem is the same difference as when you clean with a vacuum cleaner vs. your foot and the space underneath your carpet. One actually cleans the other just avoids the problem.
There are no people in this world that do not fail, but there are those that run away from their failures and those that look at them.
Those that look at their worst mistakes, take massive responsibility for them and take the time to create a plan of action are the ones that will not fail this way again.
Do not be like Atlas trying to carry the world on your shoulders; do not deal with the problems only until they leave your line of sight. Handle the problems to the degree that you can leave them behind for good!
They are the ones that move on, that do not run in circles and that can breathe freely whenever they handle their issues.
It may take a while, but sooner or later there will be nothing left on your shoulders.
To recap the strategy here really quick in case you missed it:
- Face your failure — Look at it and realize that it was your fault you failed.
- Find the core — What was the simplest reason you failed? Without any B.S. and without over-complicating it, why did you fail?
- Create an actual plan to deal with it — The best thing is daily action to become a person that would not fail like this again.
- Follow through — Do it.
Originally published at http://quora.com.
