How To Motivate Yourself To Take Charge Of Your Life And Dramatically Change For The Better
In the beginning, I only knew that the life I led wasn’t what I wanted it to be.
For some reason, it just did not feel right.
That’s what started me, at first at least, to improve.
However, I improved too slowly…
Before long my situation got worse and worse and worse, and before I knew it I was crying my heart out, frustrated at the feeling that nothing I had done had made any real difference.
Life still felt meaningless and I felt absolutely useless and unimportant.
The day I thought that way I went down a very deep, dark hole.
At that moment I only knew two things:
- I could not continue going as I had. It made me too unhappy. If I went down that deep again I would not make it out.
- I was too scared to end it all right now. Although I wanted to I couldn’t. Life could not just be about surviving until you cannot bear it anymore.
Without the courage to end it all, and with the absolute certainty that I could not continue on as I had I only had one logical choice left: Change.
Something had to change drastically, in my mind I had no other choice.
My motivation rose out of this dark place and the associated thoughts.
And it is not a path I recommend taking, nor is it a path that is necessary to make a change.
But if you “If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.” — Eric Thomas do want to make a change you have to make changing a necessity. There can be no alternative on that path!
To change the comfort zone you’ve created and the life surrounding it you have to have a damn good reason to do so.
That reason isn’t going to come from desire or motivation alone. You need to find a reason that says “I have to change. There is no other option.”
Changing yourself and your entire life is incredibly difficult and will test every one of your limits.
And please do not misunderstand me here: I am not saying any of that to because you need to change.
It’s up to you whether or not you want to, but if you do want to make a real change it will not cut it to just want to do that.
It’s just not necessary so why bother? The only times people truly change their lives is when they feel forced to do so, whether or not they actually are.
If you leave yourself a way out, if you are not fully committed, you will give up sooner or later.
Think about it: People do not change their weight when they feel they should, do not save a relationship when it doesn’t need saving and do not worry about money unless it gets to the point where they must.
You have tried so many times to be motivated already and to make a change, all just to abandon it a couple weeks later because you weren’t invested enough.
Everyone has experienced this.
I had to change, whether or not I was ready to and whether or not I wanted to.
But for me, at that dark moment, it was too much.
I could not keep pretending to try and make a change because the consequences were too grave.
From there a desire to change began to grew, which eventually turned into a passion, but I never forgot the underlying necessity, which kept me going even in the darkest of times.
Originally published at http://quora.com.
