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How To Move On From A Breakup
I do not know what it is about people and this idea that you can only love one person and that you must move on to be with someone else.
Is it arrogance? Entitlement? Possessiveness?
Parents do not move on from their children, people do not move on from their pets, and if someone becomes a widow or widower we do not expect them to move on, so why do we expect it after a breakup? What is so different about it?
Why cant you love someone and just learn to be okay with not being with them anymore but still love them?
Why do we get so obsessed with the idea of having to monopolize someone else’s love?
I’m sure this has to do with the fear of them being with someone else, but if that is a fear, would that not happen anyway?
Besides, isn’t the point of a new relationship to be happier together than you were alone?
If that is not the case, would you still want to keep them around and just hide it?
Maybe I am thinking too much about it…
I think the best thing after a breakup is to understand that you still care for that person, if you still do, and not move on.
At least you should not try to move on.
