How To Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously

We love thinking in ultimatums.

We think of ourselves either as nice or not, either as smart or dumb, caring or neglecting, or either hard-working or lazy.

We think everything, including characteristics and attributes, is an “either-or”. We think this way so it is easier to judge something and put it into certain categories.

But the truth is that it is all a grayzone. You do not have to choose one or another at every crossroads. Many times it’s a mix of both that creates a totally unique path!

But this is also only part of the problem. The other problem is that there are some qualities, that you value a lot more than others.

You might have gotten a lot of love, affection, support, and power from being the smartest person around… but as soon as anyone threatens that intellect of yours you get defensive.

In an attempt to protect the person you have become, and everything associated with that person, you take small insults very seriously.

Things that touch you down to the core are things said to a category that you value deeply or that is deeply connected to your own sense of value or worthiness.

For those things we cannot help but to take it seriously. Because, if we didn’t, we’d risk loosing…