Some Small Things That May Bring You Joy

Lukas Schwekendiek
3 min readFeb 24, 2024
Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash
  • Pets — Having my cat randomly approach me, reach up, and tap me on the arm as I work to let her on my lap always brings a smile to my face.
  • Cuddles — With my partner or friends or pets. Any bit of hugging/being hugged is lovely and releases positive hormones.
  • Compliments — Unprompted ones are always better, but sometimes I will go out and ask people for a little pick-me-up. I often get more than I hoped for and am usually surprised by how positively others think of me.
  • A Good Coffee — Some coffees just taste bad, but a good one, at the right time in the morning, is an underrated pleasure. It creates a little, and often much needed, moment of relaxation.
  • Music That Hits Just Right — I especially love the moments where I get that little shiver down my back of listening to the right melody or lyrics in the right moment where it truly resonates.
  • Having A Satisfying Bathroom Break — You know the kind I am talking about.
  • Being Childish — Whether that is because I do something childish or because I interact with something childish, doesn’t matter, as it releases the stress nonetheless. I try to prompt this with various nostalgic kids show tunes in my playlist.
  • Dancing — While I do struggle to let go when I start dancing, when I hit that moment where I do not care anymore I feel free. The same is true for any other moment where this happens, but dancing allows me not only to let go mentally but also physically.
  • Being Creative — That post where the words just flow, the story connects just right, or the idea hits just the right feeling. When I look back at what I created and wonder where it came from I always feel phenomenal.
  • Relaxing Facial Muscles — Stress is most often centered around the eyes; in the forehead, temples, and upper cheekbones. Relaxing just these muscles often relieves a lot of tension and the associated stress.
  • Sweating (Workout) — Especially the workouts where I consciously push past what I thought were my limits to see whether or not they actually were, are the ones I feel most proud of. Those are the ones that count.
  • Pulling A Stupid Joke/Pun — Most are terrible, but some are either so terrible they are great, or are so cleverly placed they cannot not be respected. It’s 99% misses, but the 1% really hit.
  • Doing It Anyway — Going out anyway, working more anyway, going to the gym anyway, complimenting someone anyway, or living more anyway. Going against “my better judgement”, but actually only against my own fear.
  • Investing In Me — This hits especially hard when I feel lonely or think others may not like me. Focusing on loving myself in that moment or bettering myself (getting closer to who I want to be) makes it a lot easier for me to feel more grounded.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post. Coaching available again! Email: Lukas.schwekendiek@gmail.com with the word "Coaching"