Stop Losing Yourself in Your Emotions — Raise Your Emotional Maturity with These 10 Tips

Lukas Schwekendiek
2 min readApr 4, 2022
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  1. Take Nothing Too Personal — The first step is to understand that most of the time the emotions the other person experiences are not about you. There is usually an underlying cause. If you take things too personally you will not be have a strong presence of mind.
  2. Know What You Want — Most arguments end in fights because the person does not understand why they are arguing. They are merely defending not fighting for something. This derails conversations and makes them much longer and harsher.
  3. Accept Your Emotions — You feel what you feel. Period. Accept them, do not hide them, and deal with them. Confront your feelings.
  4. Meditate — This is the best way to create presence of mind on a regular basis.
  5. Stop Avoiding Confrontations — Because you keep avoiding confrontations, with others and yourself, you never build the belief to stand up for what you believe in.
  6. Be Selfish — Do what you want. Stand up for what you want. Be kind when you want. Be selfish enough to put your emotions on the table.
  7. Ask More Questions — It is most likely that you assume what the other person feels or why instead of trying to truly figure it out. Ask more questions instead of assuming more.
  8. Try To Understand — There is always a reason the other person acts the way they do. Remember that and try to understand not judge.
  9. It’s Okay — It is okay not to be okay. It is okay to feel what you feel. It is okay to want what you want. Own it.
  10. Keep The Bigger Picture In Mind — Why are you in this situation? Why do you feel this way? What is the end goal to all of this? Emotions most often cause us to lose the forest for the trees.
Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post.