Stop Lying To Yourself

Lukas Schwekendiek
6 min readDec 17, 2020

Today is not a good day.

You walk away from the bank, having just checked your balance, and it is at an all time low.

An extra bill here, an extra payment there, and somehow you lost track of it all until the reality set in this morning as you checked your balance.

Seeing the statement initially feels like a punch to the gut. Of course you expected it, but you still tried to convince yourself that maybe you were wrong.

Reality, however, is not that kind.

It’s fine” you tell yourself now as well, just like you did when you avoided checking in on the balance, “I will just keep working and save a little bit more. It should not be a problem.”

A week later you are asked into your bosses office.

It’s a relatively short conversation. There is not much to say. You simply did not perform to the requirements of the company.

You are let go.

And while this hits again like a punch in the gut, you expected this as well. You know how much time you wasted.

But, then again, you didn’t like the job anyway, so who cares?

“It’s fine” you tell yourself once more, “I will simply have to work really hard until I find a job.”

A couple more weeks go by, money is becoming a real issue now, and, in an attempt to not feel as terrible about your situation you isolate yourself and procrastinate more often.

You keep saying that this is fine, that you will figure it out somehow and, at the end of the day, you keep turning a blind eye towards the things you did not do, saying you’ll do better the next day.

But it never gets better; it just gets worse…

You will likely be able to relate to the example above, although the problems may have been different, the feeling and the realizations, at least to some extend, you know.

The question I have for you right now is: Why does this happen?

Was it the lack of trying with everything you’ve got?

Was it a false sense of optimism that told you mistakenly that everything would be okay?



Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post.