Stop Reacting — The Secret To Never Being Dominated, Influenced Or Brought Down

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To be dominated, influenced, or brought down you have to allow yourself to be brought down. Basically, unless you somehow choose to be dominated you cannot be dominated.

Now, this may sound crazy, but it sounds weirder than it is.

You have to know that everything that you do and everything that goes on in your mind is your choice.

You may not choose these things consciously and therefore will resist the idea that it is your choice, but something brings forth the thought or action within you.

However, that is not to say you get to chose what comes in; all you get to chose is how to deal with what comes in.

Let’s use an example:

Big Bob walks up to you with heavy steps. He looks you dead in the eye, and says “Wow! You sure are ugly! Did someone run over your face with a car?”

You cannot chose what Big Bob said, nor can you change it, but, what you can do is react in a different way.

Someone that isn’t mentally strong will smile weakly and say something along the lines of “I guess” or “Hah… you’re funny…” This person will take what Big Bob said to heart and will think about a plethora of good comebacks later on in the day… and then hate…