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Tend To Love: Why Relationships Are Hard
Many of us confuse the physical attraction we feel for someone with being in love.
We treat love like flowers, buying the beautiful ones without understanding how much work they need.
We think that those primal feelings of attraction, those desires and wants, are what constitutes love and we act according to those primal feelings rather than the knowledge that it is not that simple.
We have crushes on the pretty girls or the handsome guys and only want to be with the most attractive person.
We confuse this with love, but it is often only an evolutionary instinct.
Even when we grow older, many of us still confuse this physical attraction with an emotional one because very few of us go through the growth of a long-term relationship.
We date based on physical aspects more than emotional ones.
That is why many of us date the attractive stranger rather than a friend we’ve come to know.
We base our first instincts of the physical attraction and then get to know the character behind the person, hoping that whoever they are underneath their looks is someone we can be together with.
The problem with this is not the approach, but that most of us subconsciously know this and we fake…
