The 7 Biggest Factors That Ruin People’s Lives

Lukas Schwekendiek
5 min readJul 22, 2022
Photo by Stefan Spassov on Unsplash

After years of looking at the top CEO’s, learning from them and coaching many CEOs and hundreds of individuals myself, 7 main mistakes seem to repeat across the board:

1. They Do Not Dream Big Enough. Most goals are tiny goals that do not excite the one planning the goal. The whole world is telling us we need to have “realistic” goals without even knowing what we are capable of and we just follow that advice blindly, limiting ourselves before we even start.

Your dreams should excite you. They should be things that excite you so much you tingle with excitement every time you think about it. It doesn’t matter if it is achievable or not, the only thing that matters is that it is so big you cannot help but to work towards it.

Small goals only do 2 things:

  1. They leave you uninspired after you achieve your goal because it wasn’t what you wanted to begin with.
  2. They limit you in what you believe you can do.

Have a goal so big others will shake their heads, tell you it is unrealistic and will think you have a god-complex for only thinking about it. Let them be the ones that are stuck in the “realistic” world they imagine, whilst you actually test those limits with all you’ve got.

2. They Expect To Reach Their Goals Too Fast And Give Up Too Quickly. No one expects it to take a long time. In today’s world of fast internet, instant information and immediate rewards we all want things to go FAST!

We want food delivered in 30 minutes, want any product to be delivered within a day of clicking the button, and want our internet, TV shows and movies to be instantly available.

This is why so many people quit! It only needs to take 1 week longer than we expect it to and we will want to quit, saying it isn’t worth it anymore. Look at any New Year’s Resolution and you will see that this is true. Losing 10lbs is easy at first, but after a month of exercising and realizing you still have only lost 2lbs it isn’t worth it anymore.

Everything that is worth it will take its time, but it will also not matter how long it takes because it is worth it.



Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post.