The Most Frustrating Thing In Life

Lukas Schwekendiek
4 min readFeb 23, 2024
Photo by Steve Smith on Unsplash

Most all of us know what to do, know exactly how to achieve what we want to achieve, or know how to find out how to get there.

We have the skills, abilities, intellect, courage, knowledge, power, and capability to get everything we ever wanted but rarely do because we stop ourselves.

How many times have we all tried to hit the gym regularly? To truly give ourselves to another person? Or to read more, work harder, or to become amazing at anything?

And how often did we truly see it through?

It’s not in our ability to get the life we want that we fail, but in our courage to try, our ability to stay present, and our ability to do things we do not want to do.

We fail because we get in our own way.

We value comfort more than the discomfort of working for the life we want.

We value resting on the couch more than the pain of getting fit.

We value staying hidden and safe in a bad place more than being vulnerably out in the open, even if it brings the potential of something better.

We stop ourselves to prevent danger, pain and discomfort, but in doing so close ourselves off to all we could achieve.

That is why we do not work that hard, why we do not love that deeply, why we are never as honest as we want to be, try as hard as we truly could and why we are never fully who we are.

We make up excuses not to try, give reasons why we cannot go out, and convince ourselves that the way we live our life is better than the alternative, but it’s all a lie.

It’s a lie to keep up this guise of trying so we do not hurt our own fragile egos.

But this lie is what holds us back.

And when we do look back, we notice the life half lived.

I hate when people get in their own way because I have seen people who changed from stopping themselves to truly giving life everything they have.

I was there, right next to them, watching them finally take the courage to go out there and truly try.

When they did, it changed everything.



Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post. Coaching available again! Email: with the word "Coaching"