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The True Way To Confidence: Have No Reason
I used to be a very shy kid.
Up until very recently I could not even make a phone call to the doctor without having to pump myself up beforehand, much less talk to a stranger or engage in any deep conversations.
I was terrible at accepting compliments, sold myself short and blamed any successes I had on the environment around me.
But what was worst was that when I pictured myself in my head, it was a hunched over, skinny, unattractive person in my head.
My confidence was not present.
The one thing that eventually changed the confidence in myself was to realize that I need no reason to be confident.
For years I was searching for reasons to be confident, for a simple trick or an “easy-button” that would allow me to feel incredibly confident without me having to do anything.
I was looking for achievements, positive emotions, motivations, begged friends to give me compliments but nothing worked.
But after years of being shy, reserved, and not even confident enough to talk to a stranger I realized that it wasn’t going to happen if I just kept sitting back.
I had enough and researched confidence where I found that: You can simply chose to be confident.
