This is actually the start of a much deeper debate: Destiny vs. Choice/Control vs. Freedom/Nature vs. Nurture, whatever you want.

In a way, none of us are totally free. Everything you are is a consequence of the choices that you made which, in turn, were consequences of the way you were brought up as a child. In this way, you had absolutely no control. Ever. Even now the choices that you make are because of what has happened to you.

But, while that may be true, the opposite can also be true. Certain Philosophies and Spiritual Teachers say that you have chosen exactly who you were born into. Even if you do not believe it to that extent, you can still, in this moment, chose things you do not want, and thereby go against everything you've learned. If you wanted to, you could chose to do the opposite of what you actually want to do. In this way, you are freer than you think.

The question is: What brings you into a better life?

If everything is pre-determined, then you might as well just let go and enjoy. But if it isn't, then you should probably make choices that lead you to a better life and take responsibility.

Sorry for the monologue, but this is a topic I often get confronted with and am very interested in.

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