This Is How You Call Yourself Out Without Being Mean
First of all, you have to realize that you did nothing wrong and that there was nothing you should have done better.
You did what you thought was best given your current situation, experiences and mindset. Period.
When you do something “bad” it’s just a way of saying that you did something you did not want to do over something you wanted to do.
That’s all.
In no way does this reflect on you. In no way does this make you better or worse. And in no way does that mean you have to be mean to yourself.
Are you mean to yourself when you order something at a restaurant and later wish you would have ordered something different?
Make a difference between the things that you wanted to do and genuinely bad things, because they are not the same.
You did not need to do anything different.
Yes, it might have made things “better” if you did, but “better” is just a way to say “More like I wanted”. Besides, from your point of view at the time it was the best possible choice out of the ones you saw at the time, otherwise you wouldn’t have chosen it; in hindsight everything is always different.
You are not doing bad things you are just doing things you do not want to do instead of doing the things you want to do/the things that lead you to what you want.
Understand that no person is better than someone else, they are just more of what you are looking for, but it doesn’t make them bad or good just because you like their personality more or less.
Know that difference and see it when you do things as well:
When you understand this you remove the whole concept of “bad” and “good” and therefore have absolutely no reason to be mean to you.
Originally published at http://quora.com.
