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Trust Yourself: The Reason Pointing Fingers Only Takes Away From Your Own Life
Every choice you make is your responsibility.
That includes the choices you make based on advice from other people as well as the choice not to make a choice.
If a friend gave you a piece of advice and you followed it, it is not necessarily your fault it did not turn out great, but it is your responsibility to deal with the outcomes of that choice.
You could have chosen anything different at any point, but you didn’t.
Yes, your hindsight is perfect, but that does not mean you made a bad choice.
And that is not because you “should have known better”. You made the best choice you could given what you knew at that time.
But more often than not we refuse to accept that.
Instead of accepting our part in the choices we made we look to find someone else to bear the responsibility.
We followed someone else’s advice, so of course they must be held responsible for it.
They are accountable for our ability to make choices, and should have known better than to suggest it, and now they better fix it.
But even if no one was involved we blame the environment, our lack of sleep, or some other outside…
