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What to Do When You Feel Left Out
There are 3 likely reasons for feeling left out: Not feeling connected, not creating a good deal, and not looking in the mirror.
First of all, understand that when you feel “left out” it means you do not feel connected to your friends.
We all put on a lot of masks depending on our situation and with whom we spend time with.
During work we put on a professional mask, while we are with friends we put on a social one and at home we put on a family one, yet these are all not us.
To feel connected you have to take off your mask and give yourself the way you are without trying to impress anyone or trying to be someone else.
If you do not do this, then even when your friends like you, pay attention to you and want to spend time with you, you will feel disconnected because they are not paying attention to the real you.
On the other hand, if you take off your mask then even if they do not spend much attention on you every little bit they do will feel genuine and will be of tremendously more value.
The second thing you need to realize is what your friends want out of the friendship.
Everyone wants to feel valued and happy. Period.
