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Why It’s So Much Harder to Find Faults in Ourselves
The honest answer is that we do not want to find fault in ourselves.
We want to find fault in others so that we do not have to change ourselves.
Changing is hard, and admitting that one would need to change means that we would also have to face that work of adjusting.
For some things that may seem reasonable, but for most a lot more is involved.
Change is not easy nor simple.
To change one part about ourselves we often have to change everything in our lives, as the life we built was built around what we want to change too.
It is not easy to change out just one part of a very fine-tuned machine, at least not with serious consequences to the entire workings of that machine.
Besides, what if the machine ends up stopping to work altogether?
What if we change something we wanted to change and lose more than we bargained for?
Or what if we are not who we were before?
Besides, we invested a lot in this path already.
If it now turns out that we were at fault, that we could have done something different, then all that hard work was for nothing.
