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Why Most Introverts Avoid Small Talk
While a lot of people say it is because introverts like to go more in depth or talk about more meaningful topics, I think the answer to this is rather straight forward:
It’s because they have different priorities.
For an introvert most conversations are far more draining.
They do not have the same kind of energy to lend to social interactions; it just exhausts them quicker.
It has nothing to do with that they dislike the other person, that they want to be alone, or that they dislike small talk.
But rather that they just need to pay far more attention to the energy they spend.
Take, for example, Brian and Nicholas.
Both of them are invited to the same barbecue.
Brian’s extroverted Nature loves these events. He can talk for hours, drink, engage and have a great time.
He is most likely the person that stays very late and has no qualms in chatting up a bit of small talk early on.
To him, it all feels recharging.
Nicholas, on the other hand, has more trouble with events like these due to his Introvertedness.
He loves the people there but every longer conversation feels like a workout for his mind.
