Why You Feel More Confident Around Strangers Than Your Friends

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Being around people you do not know is easy, after all, they have no idea who you are.

There are no preset thoughts, no expectations, no desires to be fulfilled and no glaring looks when you turn out to be someone else.

You cannot disappoint people that do not know you, just as you cannot lose a relationship that has not yet been established.

This, however, is not true for when you are around your friends.

Your friends know you. They have a set idea of who you are and they like you for a reason.

When you mess up around them you risk loosing that reason; their friendship.

This is the same reason for why we do not speak up in romantic relationships, why we do not stand up to our family, and why we just try to please our friends.

We want to avoid the conflict so we can retain what we have built.

Being ourselves, be that standing up for ourselves, speaking up, or just being confident around people, is hard because there is so much more at stake.

If you want to be confident around your those people then you must learn to stop relying on them.