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Why You Keep Repeating The Same Mistakes
Most of us have to repeat the same mistake at least a dozen times to realize why we made the mistake, with most taking even more repeats to learn.
We think that we should get lucky enough to learn every time, but most situations are simply too complex for that.
Mistakes never originate from just one source.
Most mistakes in life are created through hundreds of tiny different factors, coming together in just the perfect way, at just the right time, to create that particular mistake.
If these factors had come together in any other way, if they had come together at a different time or were different factors, the mistake either would have been different or would have not appeared at all.
Figuring out which of these factors is mostly responsible for the particular mistake we want to fix, or what lead to this situation that brought forth the mistake, is therefore insanely complicated.
It’s like having a ball, made out of a thousand different strings, that got as tangled as your headphones get in your pocket, and trying to find the end to a specific string.
We make the same mistakes over and over again because we often only cut one string, hoping that that will untangle the entire ball, but often find that it was but a symptom…
