You Are Unhappy Because You Refuse To Find Your Own Path

Lukas Schwekendiek
4 min readSep 22, 2022
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“Why is my life not great? Why am I not happy? Why does success keep eluding me? Why am I so miserable?”

I get asked these questions a lot by people every day.

Whenever I get around to answering them I always ask one thing first:

“What do you want?”

The responses always vary but are also always very generalized: Money, fame, love, success, fitness, health, etc.

The reason for this is that most people have never truly thought about what they wanted.

Most people assume that they will be happy once they have the same things that everybody else desires.

What they fail to realize is that everybody else also did not think about it yet!

Asking for life to become amazing if you do not even know what you want is like going to the doctor without knowing what’s wrong.

You simply go there, say you feel unwell, but do not know what being healthy even feels like.

The doctor may then fix your leg, may give you medicine, repair your bones, and give you treatment after treatment for you to still not know whether you are fixed or not.

If you have no goal then you will just wander around, knowing that something is wrong, or not the way it is supposed to be, but never truly sure on what to do with that information.

All you are doing is hoping, that somewhere, a doctor will come and fix you and all will be well, but if the doctor were to suggest something hard for you to do then you would likely ignore it.

The thing is, even just reading this post, you probably already read a lot of helpful articles.

You probably already had some “doctors” that told you how to get emotionally healthy, but that likely meant there was work involved.

Doing work for no reason, or rather just to get to some future you are not even sure you want, seems like a pretty bad trade.

Which means the first thing you need to find out is what you really want!

Now, let us assume you know what you want.

Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, Inc & Huffington Post.